I’m so pleased to have Pamala Vincent as my guest today. We share a mutual interest in encouraging women to find purpose and pursue their dreams in any season of life.
Pam is a freelance writer passionate
about family and equipping others to personal success. Her online magazine, The Modern Woman’s Life (www.TMWLife.com) is written for women, but
works hard to equip parents and entrepreneurs to be their own boss of:
schedules, influence and income levels. You can find her at www.pamalajvincent.com, Facebook and
Twitter.
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Ways To Find Your Purpose So You Won’t Miss Your Moment
There’s a moment somewhere between planning a dream
and putting it into action. Most of us can dream, we can even visualize our
success. We attend seminars to build our plan and to be inspired. We pay for
strategizing, mentors, cheerleaders, and how-to programs until we’ve spent
enough to buy a luxury car.
I’m not saying these coaches and mastermind sessions
are wrong; they
serve a valuable purpose if you know what you’re looking for. What I am
suggesting is that there is a moment, half as long as an inhaled breath that
lingers between having a plan and acting on it.
Have you ever planned to get up early in the morning
to work out? You set the alarm for 5 a.m. You even determine to have it across
the room so you can’t hit the snooze. The alarm goes off. You get up to turn it
off. There’s
the moment! You face ‘the moment’ choice; work out or go back to bed.
If you go back to bed, some may say you’re lazy,
lack discipline, or aren’t serious. I’ve seen the most disciplined person
metaphorically go back to bed. What’s in that moment that will make some get up
and work the plan?
Focus is part of discipline, motivation can be
fickle, and perseverance and determination must have a birthplace. Standing on
a cliff, one hundred feet above water there must be a strong enough reason to
actually jump. If a loved one, or a child, were drowning, and you had the
ability to save them, jumping would be second in thought for almost all of us.
What changed? The Why. The purpose. The moment
between planning and doing is the reason behind the plan. What motivates a
person to plan and then act?
For some of us, being held hostage by fear is enough
to agree to try and fail rather than wonder later in life what might’ve
happened if you’d tried. Maybe you’ll need to start with facing
down your fears.
For others, avoiding regrets will be your bridge to
cross over. Regrets don’t buy memories, get on with being regret free. When you’re sitting in that rocker during your
golden years, you’ll want a story rather than a ‘what if’?
Spanning that gap between planning and acting may be
as simple as defining your purpose. Once you know why you want to do what you
want to do, it’s the rope that you can build the bridge to cross over on.
Here
are 5 steps you might need to take:
1. What
do you want?
Dreams
are the spice of life that keep us engaged in living. Based on your hopes,
passions, skills and current situation, determine your end goal. Once you know
where you want to be—what success will look like—then you can begin to work
backward to where you are. Setting steps in incremental pieces will set your
plan in motion. Ask yourself the hard questions:
- Can you do this for long hours every day?
- Is there a market to make a living at what you want?
- Does this fulfill a purpose in you?
- Does this align with who you are and who you want to be?
- What’s the first step I need to take?
2. What
will it take to get it?
Listing
the positives and negatives will build a clear plan
inspiring confidence to move forward. Ask yourself where will this plan put me?
Where will I be if I don’t follow through? Are you a person who prefers being
an employee or an entrepreneur? Don’t be fooled, you’ll work much harder at
being an entrepreneur than you will at being an employee, but the entrepreneur
is limited only by themselves. Perhaps by asking this question, you’ll discover
you prefer to let someone else carve the way, and you’re happy charting the
path.
3. Research
the possibilities and your expectations.
Know the answers before the questions are asked.
It’s your dream, and you should know what it takes to get there so well that
you’ll recognize when opportunities arrive. Successful
people like to pass on their secrets. Look for people who can help you along
the way. Align yourself with their methods, later you can find your own process
and techniques.
4. Be
prepared for opportunities to come your way.
Business owners tend to want to see others succeed,
use them for knowledge, accountability, quality evaluations and as a resource.
They often can see quickly and clearly what you cannot. Every new business
owner makes rookie mistakes, use them to invite change. Eliminating a shotgun
approach will help you filter opportunities and move you forward quicker.
Network with other entrepreneurs to see what they are doing. Write down all the
great ideas you hear, and adapt them for your business. Be open to asking other
entrepreneurs and customers what they think you’re doing right, wrong and areas
you could improve in. You’ll be surprised at the great ideas you can gather.
When customers are invested in you, you’ll be amazed how many more opportunities
will come your way.
“One day your life will flash before your eyes, make
sure it’s worth watching.” – Gerard Way
5. How
will you know when you’re ready to jump?
Once you’ve laid out a clear plan, and you have a
pretty good idea what the outcome will be, you’ll build the confidence you need
to jump. Starting your own business is hard work. At times, the hours are long
and tedious. The guarantee of a paycheck isn’t there until you establish
yourself and for a while you may wear many hats. Having a plan, like a map,
will help to hang on when it gets tough and you’ll be less likely to give
up. Ask yourself again, “Why did you first begin this adventure?”
No matter the reason that got you here, the comfortable cliff standers, or the
leap before we look swimmers…there comes a time when the reasons for jumping
become stronger than staying. There will always be adjustments, but your plan
will give you the confidence you’ll need to jump.
If you are prepared with your purpose, understanding
where you are going, then when opportunity knocks, ANSWER THE DOOR!
What
did it take to move you from where you were to where you wanted to be? Why did
you jump?
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