Sometimes we look for
something “big” when seeking purpose in our lives.
I’ve been guilty of
it. As a first-born overachiever, it’s who I am. Go big or go home. Yes, I’ve struggled with that.
We’re human, and I
think many of us want to do something that will make a huge impact. We may even
be a bit envious of those who accomplish great things, create charitable
foundations, or contribute to meaningful projects in our communities—even other
countries.
We may ask, “Why
can’t I do something as awesome?”
But, let’s pull back
a second. Who says we have to do something extraordinary in order for it to
make a difference in someone’s life?
I love the following
quote . . .
People
will forget what you said, forget what you did,
but
never forget how you made them feel.
—Maya Angelou
Maya’s words remind
us that we can find great purpose in making someone feel
important, cared for, appreciated—noticed!
It also reminds us
that when we do acts of service, we need to check our hearts for motives.
For instance, we can
serve meals to the homeless, but if we make them feel less than—not worthy—or
disrespected in any way, we’re not really “serving” them. At that point, the
act becomes more about us and how we’re trying to make ourselves feel.
Purpose
can come in unexpected ways. Recently, I was contacted by a woman to wanted to read
one of my novels and write a review. It’s something she does on a regular
basis for authors. But when I responded to her message, I didn’t hear from her.
After a week had gone by, I tried to reach her again. She apologized for her lack of communication. She’d been going through a rough
time, still grieving over the death of a young grandchild she was close to.
That unexpected
admission opened up the door for us to have more conversation, and it gave me
the opportunity to offer empathy, genuine care, and encouragement needed at the
time. The original connection was all about a book review, but it turned into a
greater purpose.
Unplanned
opportunities to minister to people’s needs come along. Be open to them—take
the time—and you may find your purpose that day was as simple as making
someone feel good.
Anyone can find dirt in someone. Be the one who finds gold.
So, what do you think? Can you find
purpose in making others feel good about themselves? Will you look for ways to
offer encouragement to people who need it?
Dawn
