Meme – Inspirational Quote on Purpose and Dreams

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“The Bachelor” and the Dream of Falling in Love

I wasn’t going to do it! I was determined to not get sucked into watching The Bachelor for another season.

But, then it happened—a commercial teased me into viewing one show, which led to another, and another. Sigh.

I’ll blame it on being a hopeless romantic and the fact that I’d like to see this season’s bachelor, Nick Viall, find someone to love. Nick is currently on his fourth stint in the Bachelor Nation franchise (Not once, but twice, he almost made it to the end with a bachelorette—and there was also that season on Paradise). I actually didn’t trust the man at first, but my heart has softened as he’s grown and revealed more of himself. I think Nick is a genuine person—another romantic who sincerely wants to find the right person—a partner in life.

I hope he does . . .

One of the things that’s so fascinating about the show is that thirty women are willing to compete for one man. In front of millions of people! AND they’re aware that same man repeatedly kisses their competition. In the real world, would any woman stay with a guy who was dating countless other females at the same time? I don’t think so . . .

I believe some women are there to find love. I’m also convinced that others are there to party, travel to exotic places, or get free publicity.

What blows my mind is how emotionally devastated many seem to be when they don’t receive a rose or are asked to leave because the bachelor isn’t “feeling it.” They cry, claiming to be deeply hurt. Or they whine about how they didn’t get enough time with him before he made the biggest mistake of his life and hugged them good-bye.

Really? These ladies have spent mere hours alone with Nick, if that. How could they truly have their hearts broken?

I think what happens is that the women are more in love with the idea of being in love than actually having a real connection with or deep feelings for the bachelor.

They become so consumed with the dream of what could be, they step out of reality.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dreaming about a future with someone who thinks youre the most important part of his world. Hello! Remember—I’m a romantic! I believe in happily-ever-after.

But, I’ve also learned that you can’t force love . . .

And the real thing goes deeper than romance.

I know a young woman who chased after love—tried to make it happen. She gave so much of herself, but in each case, she ended up brokenhearted, wondering if she’d ever find someone who would unselfishly care about her.

She decided to stop dating for a while and focus on her relationship with God. This young person strived to be a good friend and make a difference in the lives of others. When she least expected it, God brought a wonderful man into her life—someone who now truly loves and cherishes her.

Regardless of age or marital status, I think most of us want to be in a loving relationship. We can have that dream. “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4 NIV).

I’m a dreamer, but sometimes, having the real thing is even better.

Are you a fan of The Bachelor?

Why do you think women are willing to compete for one man’s affections on a television show?

When it comes to love, what are the desires of your heart?


Meme – Inspirational Quote on Achieving Dreams

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Meme – Inspirational Quote on Life by Winston Churchill

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Pursuing a True Passion or a Romantic Idea?

It took failure at accomplishing some of my past dreams to realize how important it was to recognize the difference between pursuing a true passion or a romantic idea.

 Do you know how to tell them apart?

I’m being vulnerable here, so don’t judge me too harshly, okay?

After becoming a single parent with two teenage daughters who were quite capable and willing to do most things for themselves, I felt a driving need to find purpose in my life. I wanted desperately to feel like I was making a difference—somewhere. 

Questions plagued me. What did I want to do with my life? What was I supposed to do?

Dream #1

I thought about my interests. I’d loved the theater since a child, and I raised my girls on old musicals. One developed a true passion for them; the other was completely bored by people singing in the middle of a scene. I began to dream about finding a paid position where I could become immersed in the arts. I joined a board of parents involved in children’s theater, and I volunteered as an usher for weekend matinees at a professional theater in the Seattle area. I discussed job possibilities with management there. The reality—I would need to work nights and weekends, and the pay wouldn’t come close to the sum needed to live on. I would have to keep my day job too. With daughters still in high school, that couldn’t be considered. So, I dumped that notion.

You see, I was caught up in the romantic idea of working in the theater. If I’d had a real passion for it, I would have found ways to make it work—or I would have pursued it again after my daughters were both in college.

However, my oldest daughter participated in church dramas and musicals, and she also acted in community theater and high school productions. She went on to major in theater in college, then continued to take small roles in plays until she proved herself and got cast in lead roles. She pounded the pavement in New York and continued to take acting, dance, and vocal lessons while she worked other jobs. My daughter has a true passion for the theater, and she’s willing to take her lumps and make sacrifices to make things happen in her career.

Dream #2

Again with drama . . . I worked with a friend at our church to produce full-length plays—some were well-known productions, but some we wrote ourselves. At one point, I thought it would be wonderful—and cool—to have an after-school drama ministry in the inner city. A friend who had a lot of experience in theater was really interested in pursuing that idea with me. Others were intrigued by the project, and I formed a board. But ideas got carried away. Before I knew it, we were exploring starting a charter school that would emphasize the arts. Heaven knows—I was in way over my head. I didn’t know what I was doing.

My friend, being level-headed, went to pastors in the city for advice. They told him an after-school drama program didn’t stand a chance with outsiders coming in to run it. We’d only be looked at as do-gooders with no street sense. We’d have to move into the community and develop relationship first.

I disbanded the board. With no clear vision of what we were trying to accomplish and with road blocks (based on common sense), there was no reason to continue.  I’d failed—but I’d also learned some valuable lessons. If I’d had a true passion for starting an inner city program, I would have done better research and been willing to make some life changes. But, I’d been romanticizing the idea of what it would/could look like instead of facing the reality of what it would take to make it successful.

Dream #3

My husband and I have been blessed with a beautiful home, and as empty nesters, we have two extra bedrooms and a guest bathroom. They come in handy when family comes to visit from out-of-state or we have the grandkids overnight. But, most of the time, those bedrooms remain vacant.

My heart goes out to children who have experienced painful situations in their young lives, and there was a period of time when my heartstrings were played whenever I heard about the need for foster care. I began to dream about how wonderful it would be to give a child a home—save a little one from more heartbreak. But as my husband and I contemplated what having a child in our home would involve—the responsibility, the challenges—we realized that we’re not in the right place to make that kind of commitment.

On the other hand, friends of ours who have been foster parents in the past are eager to jump back in now that they’ve recently retired. They have a large home, the time, the wisdom, and the love to offer children. They know what they’re getting into, and they’re willing to do what it takes.

Dream #4

More than ten years ago I began to seriously pursue a writing career. This journey can require working many hours a day for years (sometimes seven days a week to meet deadlines), ongoing study to improve one’s craft, the willingness to risk rejection from publishers and face criticism from readers, writing—then rewriting, networking, marketing, becoming more tech savvy, attending workshops and conferences, etc. with no guarantee of success.

Yet—it’s all still worth the hard work. Because it’s my true passion.

It’s one thing to think about how awesome it would be run across the finish line at the Boston Marathon. It’s another to care enough about it to train—despite awful weather or injuries.

So, if you think about it . . . are you pursuing a true passion? Or a romantic idea?


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